Survivor of Sexual Abuses inside Ogyen Kunzang Choling call-out to Dalai-Lama - 2021

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9qK4X2G3v_4

"in 2021 we tried, again, after the lack of action of the 2018 meeting in Rotterdam with the Dalai-Lama, we tried to again, get him to remove his support for Ogyan Kunzang Choling, that he declared through the Kashag in 1997, after the french and belgian police had organized a raid on the coercive group organization OKC. We gave this video and other testimonies to the ARTE journalist then in India, trying to get a meeting with the Dalai-Lama about the documentary Buddhism the law of silence / the unspeakable truth, even this appeal, with this request, the ARTE documentary crew never managed to get the Dalai-Lama people to take this seriously. Even with covid-19, this is not a valid excuse, there are many ways that a virtual meeting could have been setup, the behavior of the Kashag and the Dalai-Lama is a demonstration that they don't care about the victims. 1992 Dalai Lama visit Ogyen Kunzang Choling in Brussels, meets with Robert Spatz, indirectly and directly legitimize him and the coercive group OKC Attestations of legitimacy given by the Dalai-Lama to OKC in 1994 1997 OKC is raided by the police in France, Belgium, Portugal inquiries start, complaints of sexual abuses are filled. Decades of trials will enfold, in 2018, OKC meets the Dalai Lama in Rotterdam with 3 others survivors of abuses inside Tibetan Buddhist centers. https://www.buddhistdoor.net/news/dal... After the meeting, the survivors supposedly gave "ammunitions" for the DalaiLama to act https://apnews.com/article/europe-asi... https://www.tibetanreview.net/the-dal... The promised 2018 november meeting will never take place, postponed indefinitely. In 2021, we record this video to call-out the Dalai Lama and have the Kashag institution to speak with the ARTE journalists, at the time producing the documentary, buddhism the law of silence. They were never received. the 4 promises were never taken care of."

the Dalai-lama can be seen kissing a boy on the mouth

https://hridayartha.blogspot.com/2023/04/not-tibetan-way.html?fbclid=IwAR3ciiN0SKWxr_mAsKxNWQyim0m6uKGfZXh94zANZtCF3lXuKDE4e3vJ_kU

samedi 8 avril 2023

Not the Tibetan way

Screencapture “Members of the audience posing for a group photo with His Holiness the Dalai Lama at the end of the program in the courtyard of the Main Tibetan Temple in Dharamsala, HP, India on February 28, 2023."

Two videos have appeared on Youtube, where the Dalai-lama can be seen kissing a boy on the mouth: Dalai Lama inappropriately tongue-kisses boy and a video on the channel of Tibetan Happy.

On February 28, 2023 in Dharamsala, the Dalai-lama addressed visitors from the M3M Foundation, “the philanthropic arm of M3M India group”, one of the country’s biggest real estate developers of “luxury residential developments and premium commercial projects”. One of the Foundation’s initiatives is iMpower. “iMpower Resource Center has been established to serve families of migrant construction workers that have no means for providing their children with supportive learning experiences.” The Dalai-lama addressed a group of graduates of this initiative.

At one point during the meeting, a boy (who may be related to one of the organisers, see photos below) asks if he can hug the Dalai-lama. Someone may have told him to ask this.

“Can I hug you?”

The translator explains “rgyal ba rin po che bsdam na grig gi red”, but the Dalai-lama doesn’t seem to understand. Then another translator adds “rgyal ba rin po che hug cig bcing gi ‘dug zer”. This time the Dalai-lama seems to understand (maybe confusing a hug and a kiss). 

"Ok, come !"

"First here" [points to his cheek]

"Then I think finally here also"

[points to his mouth, pouts his lips and moves forward]

 

"And suck… my tongue"

[DL sticks out his tongue and moves his head towards the boy.

The boy initially approaches hesitantly,
than withdraws, visibly somewhat ill at ease]

"Thank you." [grabs the boy’s hand and holds it against his cheek,
relatively long, the boy smiles a bit akwardly]

"We are same human brothers sisters [puts his arm around the boy’s neck and draws the boy towards him and holds him with one hand, relatively long, the boy tries to get out of the hug. When released the boy smiles akwardly] 

"Thank you." [the boy wants to go, DL holds him back,

pointing his finger up to imaginary good people] "
"Now, you should look those good human beings, who create peace, happiness."

"Should not follow those human beings who always kill other people. 
You should not look these people."

[DL pulls boy towards him and hugs him, with one hand, then with two hands,

then seems to tickle him under his right arm,

the boy withdraws, protecting himself with his right arm, smiling a bit akwardly]

On the picture above, the boy is standing in front of the Dalai-lama, a woman and a man standing next to him. Perhaps his parents, as representatives of the Foundation or the M3M Group? Would this explain all the “special attention” the boy is given by the Dalai-lama?

Hugging, kissing on the cheek, kissing on the mouth and tongue kissing in public are not Tibetan customs. Greeting with the tongue was a Tibetan custom, but has disappeared from the Tibetan communities in exile. The Dalai-lama seems to be mocking Western habits of greeting, by going further each time. Perhaps he finds those habits too intimate in public situations, especially compared to the Indian greeting with folded hands (namaste). Yet he doesn't refrain from acting them out in public, and with a boy. At every more intimate way of greeting the DL suggests, the audience laughs louder. Perhaps after the tongue kiss the Dalai-lama realises he may have gone too far, and goes back to the simple “hug”, the boy actually asked for, and talks about good and bad people and how the boy should strive to follow the good people. He hugs the boy again and tickles him, as an uncle would do to his nephew or niece..., ending the encounter in a more acceptable joking way, making thus forget what happened just before.

At one point after the meeting the boy breaks a coconut by throwing it on the floor. The DL laughs

During the meeting the Dalai-lama said: “Sometimes I jokingly say that in times past we Tibetans were the students and you Indians were the teachers, but now, when Indian has come so much under the influence of western thought, it is we Tibetans who have kept ancient Indian knowledge and values alive.” (Buddhist Times)

The Dalai-lama seems to want to suggest that the Indians, unlike Tibetans, went too far in accepting the Western influence, perhaps including “strange” Western habits and values. This could be a change from his former soft power tactics, perhaps the Dalai-lama wants to show stronger support to “traditional” Indian values and habits, and to Modi’s political choices. Since Western values are under attack, and the power balance may be changing, showing more criticism of the West and a greater inclination to traditional Asian values could perhaps be thought of as an intelligent soft power move in a changing world, and especially in India?

Apart from this, the way the Dalai-lama acted with the boy, used him as an object for whatever reason, is not acceptable. How the Dalai-lama could associate a hug asked by a child with a tongue kiss, only he himself or his shrink can know. All the boy asked for was a simple hug. I think the Pope, another His Holiness, would probably have given the boy a simple hug. Imagine what would have happened if the pope acted like the Dalaï-lama. Buddhist exceptionalism is still alive and kicking, but for how long?  

Update 10042023 Reaction Office of the Dala-Lama

Dalai Lama, suck my tongue incident, The Guardian

 https://www.theguardian.com/world/2023/apr/10/dalai-lama-apologises-kissing-boy-suck-his-tongue-video?fbclid=IwAR3-T-H1CBcugpxNaSEedGHBuEBNAyy4enVHRgliLVlnMGW5OFoy9sP2LQo

The Dalai Lama has apologised after he faced allegations of inappropriate behaviour after kissing a young boy on the lips and asking him to “suck his tongue” at a public event in India.

The interaction, which took place in late February at the Dalai Lama’s temple in Dharamshala, was attended by about 100 young students who had just graduated from the Indian M3M Foundation.

The Dalai Lama, Tenzin Gyatso, is the holiest figure in Tibetan Buddhism and has lived in exile in India since 1959, when Tibet was annexed by China.

Tibet and China clash over next reincarnation of the Dalai Lama

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In a video that has gone viral, one of the young male students approached a microphone at the event and asked the Dalai Lama: “Can I hug you?”

The Dalai Lama, 87, told the boy to come up to the platform where he was seated. Motioning to his cheek, he is heard saying “first here”, after which the child kissed him and gave him a hug.

The Dalai Lama kept hold of the boy, saying “I think here also” and then planted a kiss on his lips. “And suck my tongue,” the Dalai Lama then said, sticking out his tongue, forehead to forehead with the student. The boy quickly stuck out his own tongue and went to move away while the Dalai Lama laughed and pulled the boy in for another hug, as the audience laughed.

The spiritual leader then spoke to the boy, advising him to look to those who create “peace and happiness” and not to follow “human beings who always kill other people”, before giving him a final hug.

As the video spread across the internet it was condemned by many, who called it “inappropriate”, “scandalous” and “disgusting”. The controversy prompted an apology from the office of the Dalai Lama, who said his behaviour had been “innocent and playful”.

It said in a statement: “His holiness wishes to apologise to the boy and his family as well as his many friends across the world, for the hurt his words may have caused.

“His holiness often teases people he meets in an innocent and playful way, even in public and before cameras. He regrets the incident.”

The Dalai Lama has faced previous controversies. In 2019 he caused an outcry after suggesting that if the Dalai Lama returned as a woman “she should be more attractive”, for which his office apologised.

“Suck my tongue” Dalai Lama demands of little boy. Video.

 https://www.buddhistdoor.net/news/dalai-lama-apologizes-for-inappropriate-conduct-with-young-boy/?fbclid=IwAR21es1SR0Zp4P4_IdflTyjHIzdjlNe60zH3VswH-p7Ga-wjZZgAS9IhYjM

The rape by Karmapa case, the comments are excellent

 https://buddhism-controversy-blog.com/2023/01/09/karmapa-agrees-to-multimillion-dollar-settlement-with-mother-of-his-child-source-says/?fbclid=IwAR2epaoJcnOS6KRJtqRAHgCoZS4feY-R3aLJklhGiHCdBg9yRVu4pNzyz3s

Sexual abuse in Tibetan Buddhism - in German, thesis for a Masters degree

 https://rw-ktf.univie.ac.at/fileadmin/user_upload/i_religionswiss/Wenn_Schwaene_im_Wasserlilienteich_schwimmen._Sexueller_Missbrauch_im_tibetischen_Buddhismus__Georg_Wenisch_2021_.pdf

Sex abuse by lamas - Olaf Hoeyer pdf

https://www.tilogaard.dk/english/Sex_with_the_Lama.pdf Sex with the Lama is not always a good idea neither for Lama nor partner Lama Tendar Olaf Hoeyer, August 2017. The picture shows the Zen master Bodhidharma with his ear in the hands of a courtesan... (from John Steven’s book: Lust for Enlightenment) Ethics is not always a simple matter, when eroticism is involved. Erotic frustration and naked desire may destroy an otherwise beneficial relationship between student and Dharma-teacher. Since erotic Tantra does exist (karma mudra) as a legitimate form of practise (sadhana), where the students traditionally engage in a special erotic union with the Lama – or with his wife – as initiation, Sanskrit: abhisheka. Later, the yogi will find suitable partners for his or hers sadhana. It is of course not for monks nor nuns. Never the less, some people think, that it is also OK for the ordained, because the Tantra wows surpass Vinaya rules for monks and nuns. This opinion is not held in the lager monasteries. The learned Pandits have never been able to agree about this. It is a difficult path for anyone, to use the area of eroticism to also become the solution for all such problems of letting go of attachment and identification with sex in order to gain insight, liberation and enlightenment. If eroticism is obsessive to someone, karma mudra may be applied. Because both the problem and the solution manifest simultaneously in the same mind at the same place, there are also erotic Tantra as a method. It is there naturally so to speak. This erotic union has to happen in a state of samadhi, that is meditative absorption. This method is therefore almost impossible to execute correctly. In other words: you have to try many times, before you succeed. Within Tantra there is a hierarchic difference between Lama and student. So the Lama may easily misuse the student, if the master does not really hold mastership, but is unskilfully a victim of delusion, Sanskrit: ahamkara and moha. To the poor unenlightened village Lama, it may not appear clear, what is liberating karma mudra, and what is sexual exploitation and self satisfaction. To several known ‘masters’ it also appear difficult to distinguish. The most notorious is the Nyingma Lama Sogyal Tilogaard’s website: Lama Norlha sex scandal www.tilogaard.dk/english 1 Rinpoche, otherwise mostly reputed for his book ‘The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying’. Sogyal Rinpoche has collected a series of accusations against him about sexual exploitation of several of his students. A 10 million $ lawsuit from 1994 was closed with a settlement, so we do not know the juicy details nor the size of the compensation. (Read about this via these links: www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/belief/2011/jul/01/lama-sex- abuse-sogyal-rinpoche-buddhist & https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sogyal_Rinpoche.) The criticism of Sogyal Rinpoche has in August 2017 lead to his resignation from the leadership of his organisation ‘Rigpa’. Read about this development here: 1) Sogyal Rinpoche's resignation: www.tilogaard.dk/english/Sogyal_Rinpoche_resignation_letter_1_sr_l etter_august_2017_eng-1.pdf. 2) The leadership of Rigpa's reaction: www.tilogaard.dk/english/Sogyal_Rinpoche_resignation_Rigpa_board _reaction_letter_2_rigpa_letter_aug_2017_eng-1.pdf. 3) Press release from Rigpa: www.tilogaard.dk/english/Sogyal_Rinpoche_resignation_Rigpa-press- statement-final-2017_08_11.pdf. 4) Read here Sogyal Rinpoche’s students open letter of complaining: www.tilogaard.dk/english/Sogyal_Rinpoche_students_complain_Lette r_to_Sogyal_Lakar_14_06_2017.pdf. Now also the Kagyu Lama Norlha in the USA have been accused of sexual exploitation of his female students for decades. This inspired his organisation to arrange a conference about sex and correct relationship between Dharma-teachers and their students: http://kagyu.com/introduction/ethics-policy (– please not that this Dharma centre is part of the ’alternative’ 17th Karmapa Ogyen Dordje’s network. Lama Norlha is not in any relationship with the ‘classical’ 17th Karmapa Thrinle Taye Dordje, Tilogaard’s ‘protector’ nor with his network.) Lama Norlha was born in Kham (Eastern part of the ethnic Tibet) in 1935. 8 years of age, he entered a monastery. He escaped from Tibet in 1961. Lama Norlha was then 7 years in Kalu Rinpoche’s monastery in Sonada in India. In 1976 he went to the USA and became the leader of the Dharma centre Kagyu Thubten Choling. He also visited Denmark. Allegedly, Lama Norlha has had many sexual relationships, since he arrived in the USA. Now, he is officially deposed and retired. It is a bit strange to hear about, but not so surprising for people, who know Tibetan culture. These stories about sexually potent Tibetan Lamas with great erotic appetite, that appear to lack ability to let go of attachment and identification with passionate feelings (kleshas), pop up al the time. So, Tilogaard’s website: Lama Norlha sex scandal www.tilogaard.dk/english 2 this looks like a typical problem, that occur periodically. There is good reason to consider this problem and to take care. It is not always all right. The problem in this kind of cases is of course, that we as bystanders cannot look through whether the case is sexual abuse or correct erotic Tantra. It is always the students that complain and feel abused. Some times such students experience regret long time after the whole thing took place. We might presume, that they did not learn anything and they were unable to conduct Tantra correctly. Possibly, the Lama have tried to show them a special way to emancipation and enlightenment in a professional manner. We do not know. On the other hand, the Lama might misuse the hierarchical power situation to relate erotically to the student with an intent of personal gratification and orgasm, disregarding the students situation and keeping Bodhicitta out of it. In that case, there is no samaya or Tantra wow. We do not know, but the complaining students suffer much evil, because they have been caught up in a game, that they could not evaluate nor avoid, when it all happened. Later it appear to them, that they could have backed out. All in all, they are left with a feeling of shame. So even if the Lama did try to teach the students karma mudra, then apparently there was no success, and the students cannot help it, but experience abuse and regard the Lama as a sophisticated violator. The Dharma community, that they are part of, then also suffers and people leave. It is not obvious, what is real or true. Such cases are difficult to unravel. It is typical though, that the abused students feel outrage, and that the Lama does not say much if anything at all, maybe because of samaya – or because it is simply all too stupid. This is the reason, that erotic Tantra is rare indeed and difficult to accomplish. Also, it is not the ‘highest’ path. That of course is Mahamudra, where you will not engage with an erotic partner – where there is no erotic Tantra. The wise Lama and Dharma-teacher will abstain from erotic relations with the students. As a principal rule it is unprofessional and may only be applied in very special cases, for instance if the Lama is married with the karma mudra, whereby the hierarchy to some extend is equalised. In ancient India erotic Tantra was a tradition between the homeless wandering sadhus or ‘holy men’ and yogis. In their native environment the tradition worked well, because there was not much of private property, private life, family honour nor lasting relationships for such yogis. On the other hand, karma mudra have never worked well within organised religion in general nor in the monasteries in particular. The first Karmapa Dysum Khyenpa was in this way expelled from his Lama Gampopa’s monastery, because he conducted erotic Tantra within the monastery walls 900 years ago. It was not the first time nor the last that such expulsions happened. Tilogaard’s website: Lama Norlha sex scandal www.tilogaard.dk/english 3 What is ethically correct in connection with Tantra, may be utterly incorrect in a civil samsara connection. When someone cultivate eroticism, almost automatically also the strong passion of envy is invited and not only desire. Right in the heels of both follow naturally pride and anger. Also confusion will arise. But just as easily great sensitivity and openness may appear, so Bodhicitta is definitely a possibility, if you really go for it. Even erotic Tantra is designed to handle and overcome the invitation of eroticism to attachment and identification, then this art will just as easily lead to more of the same kind. Eroticism is seduction, so erotic Tantra may become completely seductive and be misused. The picture shows Lama Norlha, that many Americans now hold in contempt. Lama Norlha though, is not necessarily a pig. He may have had a perception, that he was aiding his erotic partners to accomplish Bodhicitta. But we do not know. Just like the case with Lama Yeshe from Kundreul Ling (Le Bost) in France several years ago, this looks like a simple and extensive practise between a higher ranking person, that misuse a lower ranking person sexually. In the Tibet of Old, people would not have protested against such treatment, because you never know – maybe the Lama is a Buddha. Lama Norlha may have presumed, that the Americans think likewise. It is also possible, that Lama Norlha was sexually frustrated, because he was a badly motivated monk – anyway his conduct was bad no matter what he thought. I presume though, that he did nothing criminally. The case is about lack of morality and bad ethics. The case is also a warning to everybody, that it is not only the Lama who carry a responsibility in relation to the students – the students also carry responsibility. They should not allow manipulation and seduction in the name of a religion. The students must secure that their integrity is respected. They also must secure that the Lama is qualified. Who else should do that? It is in itself an art to verify the reputation and qualifications of the Lama. The World is full of unenlightened people, and the Lamas are not always Buddhas. The good news are, that the misuse was discovered, the Lama dismissed and everybody hopefully got wiser... The bad news are, that we do nor know whether Lama Norlha is innocent – or at least erring in his perception of the Americans. Maybe he was just too optimistic about the students engagement and ability. Maybe people of the West are too prudish. Maybe no one got any wiser... On Tilogaard you cannot learn erotic Tantra. Actually, it is quite difficult to find a Dharma-teacher on this subject, if you are interested. The Magazine Tricycle has written about Lama Norlha: Tilogaard’s website: Lama Norlha sex scandal www.tilogaard.dk/english 4 https://tricycle.org/trikedaily/kagyu-thubten-choling-monastery- working-sex-impropriety/. Read also: https://tricycle.org/magazine/sex-sangha-again/. Read further: www.lionsroar.com/kagyu-thubten-choling-addresses- sangha-about-lama-norhla-rinpoches-sexual-misconduct-with- students/ Read also: www.lionsroar.com/confronting-abuse-power/. This last link express a useful approach to this kind of problems. The typical ‘sexual predator’ – who is beyond dialogue – is also discussed. Also Dzongsar Khyentse Rinpoche has commented on the issue of Sogyal Rinpoche by writing a rather lengthy paper: www.tilogaard.dk/english/Dzongsar_Khyentse_on_sex_with_the_Lam a_August_2017.pdf. This paper is very important for any student of Buddhadharma. Some people never learn On the various website of the organisations directly connected to Lama Norlha and Sogyal Rinpoche there is no mention of sex scandals, even these two Lamas have made their formal exit from these organisations explicit and made excuses for their behaviour. It may seem that they did not leave at all. Quite strange – as if they are also in denial... The same strange kind of attitude is also seen with the ‘alternative’ Jamgon Kongtrul Lhabrang. When you visit their websites, it is as if the Tulku has not left them, though he indeed did so more than a year ago in April 2016, stating that he did not feel like an incarnation of the previous Jamgon Kongtrul, and he would rather live his life without this organisation. Read about that here: www.tilogaard.dk/english/Two_Jamgon_Kongtruls.pdf. (Please notice, that the ‘classical’ incarnated Jamgon Kongtrul Rinpoche, the son of Beru Khyentse Rinpoche both feels like his previous incarnation, behaves as such and has no problem of being that incarnation. I call his incarnation ‘classical’ because he was appointed by the ‘classical’ Karmapa Thrinley Taye Dorje. The 17th Karmapa Thrinley Taye Dorje was called ‘classical’ by Shamar Rinpoche.) Postscript: Lama Norlha died the 19th of February 2018, 79 years old. Read also Alex Berzin’s essay on misuse by religious teachers: https://studybuddhism.com/en/tibetan-buddhism/about-buddhism/misconceptions- about-buddhism/dealing-with-abusive-behavior-by-spiritual-teachers Books: 'Tibetan Arts of Love' of Gendün Chöpel, translated and commented by professor Jeffrey Hopkins; Snow Lion Publications, 1992. ISBN: 0-937938-97-1. 'Lust for Enlightenment - Buddhism and Sex' of John Stevens; Shambhala Publications, 1990. ISBN: 0-87773-416-X. Tilogaard’s website: Lama Norlha sex scandal www.tilogaard.dk/english 5